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Seriously Reader, I see this in my coaching all the time. No exception what so EVER! Habits are seductive and saves us a lot of energy and time, so when it comes to changing them, it can seem a little daunting (or a lot daunting) and scary.

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I was in a coaching session with my client last week. And while talking to him, I asked him on a scale of 1 to 10, how badly do you want to lose those 12 kilos? (he has fatty liver which explains his desperation to get slim). And in all GOOD SPIRIT, he answered 9. Great, right!! This proved that he surly wants to lose weight for the right reasons.

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So as we discussed his current lifestyle, we agreed that his food habits need modifications. And we defined clear steps he will have to take to bring the necessary changes in his eating patterns. He started to sound low and anxious in his replies. In that moment, I knew I have to work on his mindset first. So the direction of our session for the day took a different angle.

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Here's the thing, motivation alone does not bring a change in behavior. One initial step towards understanding how to change your behavior is to educate yourself as to how do we acquire habitual behaviors in the first place.

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There is a direct correlation between repeated and rewarding actions. I will share one of the example from my life. I had a habit of biting my nails whenever I was overthinking or anxious. I developed an association between stress and nail-biting. So each time I was stressed about something, I would bite my nails. So the "stress" in my case became a cue for nail-biting. Any moment of even mild distress or anxiety and I would unconsciously bite my nails.

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The fact is, we are people of habits. And our habits may manifest differently in different people. For example, one person may choose shopping as an association to stress and the other may reach out for a box of ice cream.

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So in order to try to tackle the underlying habits, you have to identify what your cues are for the unwanted behaviors? Make a note here, that the behaviours which deliver greater rewards or immediate rewards is likely more difficult to change.

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I encourage you to run a self check on which behaviours you know is not serving your health goals and yet you find it most difficult to change. Then dive deeper into recognizing the associated cues that trigger those behaviours.

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If you know your not so good behaviours that keeps you from achieving your health goals then reach me for a free session. Let's discuss and explore possibilities of a positive change. Hit a reply now. :)

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Reader, you can give this recipe a try. Try it out this week and tell me if it worked for you!

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